Reaching The End, My Friend



Argh … dear Reader, mind-meandering thoughts are still active but, this time, I will risk waving most of them off.

If they let me. 😉

Heads up: yes, there comes a time when even good things must end.

For most gardeners, there comes a time, too, when enough garden beds have been planted and are thriving.

Basically, though I have very much enjoyed the challenge of enabling inspired thoughts to filter down to these pages via my keyboard, I feel the time has come to gently stop the ever-repeating flurry of unsolicited meandering thoughts.

Why allow them to proliferate on more ‘garden beds,’ a.k.a. the hundreds of blogs written in the past 15 years?

Heads up: dear Reader, it’s time to allow ‘our’ numerous garden beds the freedom of looking after themselves as we go about our daily busy-ness.

Safe under the wings of Heart-Based Coherence, Curiosity and Positive Probability, we go.

For sure, it’s time to go on consolidating further the practice of energising

–           what that we know is true

–           all we sense and feel is true, too. 😉

Ah, but not so fast!

Before I hit the END button, I’d like to recap a few of the most essential key points explored thus far.

‘One for the road’, we might say.

For the long road ahead. 😉

‘That which hate done unto yourself, do not do unto others,’ admonished the great sage, Hillel-the-Elder, who died in 10 BC.

Some 60 years later, impacted by the wisdom embedded in such a simple thought, Mark, the gospel writer, paraphrased what would become known as the Golden Rule.

He attributed that thought to Jesus. Once translated from ancient Greek, it went like that: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you – treat others as you want to be treated.

Too simple?

Serious Question: why are so many mega-millions of inspired ‘words’ on paper, on-screen or audio needed to guide us, seekers of holistic wellness, when all we need to energise heart-mind coherence is to implement the Golden Rule?

I mean, really, why such a massive avalanche of words, words and more words in so many languages’ only’ to distil the essence of what ancient religions had encapsulated in a few keywords or tenets hundreds and thousands of years ago?

Every essential concept and commandment can be found in the Torah/Old Testament, the Tibetan Book of the Living and the Dying, the Tao Te Ching, and many other sacred texts.

After all, the call to treat others as we want to be treated is hardly ‘rocket science’, as the expression goes.

What could be simpler and more logical than that?

Here’s a thought: the need for more words and more repetition of what we consciously already know must be because our ancestors have long ago forgotten that they were much more than their bodies.

Much more than their position and status within their circle of influence, such as it might have been.

It must be because we, the generations of today, had inherited their awareness deficit a long time ago.

Reality Check #1: we, too, forget that we are neither our status nor our thoughts nor any of our strengths and weaknesses. These are only the tools we use to thrive or implode.

They are the tools with which we build or destroy.

Reality check #2: should we, one day, lose or change our status, we will still be who we are today.

We know that’s true

Our thoughts come and go.

We know that’s true, too.

Most of the time, our thoughts are unsolicited, but, however absent-of-mind we might be, we are always physically present.

We are, at least until Soul suspends our breath.

Even when we have been care-less with our body and we know it is struggling to heal itself, we are still who we are.

Clothed or naked – in silk or in cotton, we are who we are inside and out.

We are that – and we remain that – until we actively decide to grab the reins off our ego-persona and sit squarely in the saddle of that galumphing little elephant.

The need for words and more words and more repetition of what we already know must also be because, as in bygone eras, we neither seek to regulate our thoughts nor our emotions.

Nor our behaviours – nor our inactions.

Though we generally seek to develop our physical aptitude and attributes along with our intellectual potential, we tend to forget to develop our emotional resilience again and again.

Too often, we ‘hand out’ acts of kindness and thoughtfulness, even to our loved ones, as though they were a commodity.

Too often, we do it as if we risked running out of that good stuff.

We do it as do those online CEOs, founders or their marketing agents who, forgetting that by their very nature ‘gifts’ are intended to be free, offer us a ‘free gift’.

The moment we click to accept that ‘free’ gift – which is seldom more than a sample – up, they pop, all smiles onto our screens.

Their plan is to play on our fear of missing out.

Very kindly they urge us to ‘enjoy’ an early discount on their product before ‘doors close’ on their offer.

In closing, of course, they wish us well.

They send us love, and light and blessings, and whatever else sounds nice.

Minutes later, riding on the coattails of our ‘free’ download, comes an email from the same person.

This time it is written in the 1st person – as if it was them emailing us directly.

By then, they have some of our details. So, as if we had met in person, they address us by name.

They don’t know us, but perhaps they are familiar with Dale Carnegie’s advice. ‘Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest,’ said the man who wore many hats, ‘and most important sound in any language.’

Personally, I’d say that our name’s impact on us really depends on how it is used and in what tone.

Anyway, that apparent solicitude is bait.

Those emails intend to prompt us to act quickly to ‘save’ some of our hard-earned $$ by spending more $$$ on their company’s products than we otherwise would.

As if this type of personalised marketing only had our best interest at heart, it urges us to commit before ‘supply runs out’ or before the discount offer expires.

But— but— of course, these CEOs, founders and Marketing Directors mean well.

Of course, they believe their product is the yet-to-be-discovered solution to one of our lacks or another.

As Yudit CS, my mentor, used to remind me, ‘The more you learn to give, CC, the more you get back. But don’t expect it to be immediate, in kind or from the person to whom you gave something tangible or intangible. Instead, just know that with every act of open-ended kindness, you attract positive synchronicity. It will manifest in the fulness of time. Never too soon. Never too late.’

Seriously, dear Reader, we know that whatever support we give should be free of conditions and caveats regardless of its form.

So, back to the topic of why there is a need for words, more words and more repetitions when it comes to behaving ethically, it must be because learning how to balance our inner-outer lives is often deemed too demanding to master.

It seems too demanding even for many whose chosen profession is to preach to the already converted.

So, as our ancestors gave up many centuries ago, on the whole, we, modern Homo sapiens, have given up, too.

In giving up, we forget we don’t live in a bubble.

And we forget to return to the effort of mastering our feelings and emotions.

And we forget the necessity of inclusivity, mutual aid and mutual care flagged by the Golden Rule.

Marcus Tullius Cicero, the statement and philosopher who died in 43 BC, knew that ‘When each person loves the other as much as himself, it makes one out of many.’

‘Unus fiat ex pluribus’, he wrote.

And, so many-many centuries later, we understand our selves better.

We accept our selves better.

We love our selves better.

And in that glow, we include others.

For sure! A systematic application of the Golden Rule is not a venture for the faint-hearted.

But when we do our best – when we know we’ve done our best in ‘testing’ moments, then we accept that, indeed, we have done our best.

For the moment.

Tomorrow is another day, and when tomorrow becomes the new today, we will have the opportunity to go for a Personal Best.

These days there’s a clamour heard just about everywhere online and in the press.

That clamour tells us there’s work to be done to heal, protect or save the planet.

Work to be done to heal, protect or save millions of our fellow humans.

The clamour is urging us to shine our light and to dive deep into a cause – and so we should.

But ranting, raving and waving placards is one thing.

Raising a calm fist, showing up with our best intentions in our hearts – and not getting side-tracked – is another thing.

Ideally, all these behaviours get blended into one.

One key ingredient we need to generate even before we lace up our boots and slip on our masks is self-regulation.

Another is the ability to feel safe in our bodies.

And another is to develop the ability to heal, protect or save those who have been karmically paced closest to us.

So close, they are under our roofs.

Or in our workplace.

Or in our sports club.

In the cafes and shops we frequent.

So, maybe today, we got trapped in an emotionally-charged conversation with a parent, child, colleague or partner.

Or a stranger.

Perhaps we didn’t handle it as well as we would have liked.

That’s OK.

Tomorrow is another day.

Tomorrow, our energy will be different.

We might do better tomorrow than we did today.

Better – or not as well – depending.

That said, on this day, the moment has passed.

So, we do our best to focus neutrally on the new moment underfoot – the gap between our inhale and our exhale.

We breathe.

We are.

We just are.

We know that we can make a change to ‘life’ as it is under our roofs, within our workplace and communities.

We know we can do that when we show up with calm courage and acceptance.

Acceptance even of what we need to help change.

We can effect an incremental, peace-full change any time we help our selves – and each other – develop greater self-esteem and emotional security.

Uh … mmm… dear Reader, have I lost myself in yet another mind-meander?

Argh! Figure it!

What I honestly thought would be a short and to the point closing text – ‘a farewell dear Reader’ sort of text, has already spread over a lot more space than expected.

And, now, the thought that I should contextualise what I’ve just finished typing before permanently ‘closing the door’ on this and all Saint-Clair series … is now knocking on that door, wanting me to keep it open a moment longer. 😉


What’s a good woman to do, huh?

I guess I’ll let the next instalment meander its way out of the keyboard to shape the next blog.

Let’s see how that goes, shall we, dear Reader?



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