Optimising Our Bucket List

Most of us have a list of ‘things’, achievements and relationships we feel we need to be happy. It’s true for many of us that our thoughts churn with regular monotony through our perceived lack.

Desire it. Crave It – Get it – And Then … What?

Chapter 1 –  Most of us have a list of ‘things’, achievements and relationships we think we need to be happy … in the future. It’s true for many of us that our thoughts churn with regular monotony through our perceived lack. Bucket lists have become increasingly popular over the past 15 years or so.

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If It’s Not Our Genes …

Chapter 2 –   Science tells us our genes do not define our life but that they compose its blueprint. As they hold the keys to our health, mind and physical potentiality, genes are, indeed, the main elements of our pre-utero destiny for our time, here and now. Science confirms that small differences in our DNA

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The Stress Of Desiring

Chapter 3 –  Here is a fact: we, the most modern beings ever to live on planet Earth are driven by the same nervous system, our sympathetic nervous system, as were our most distant ancestors, the earliest version of Homo sapiens, who lived in a volatile environment. It’s well documented that, as it prepares the

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Ever Grateful, Are We?

Chapter 4 –  True or false: gratitude sucks. It pulls us away from our addictive compulsion to self-pity. True or False: gratitude is our heart’s best friend. Our heart’s best friend is our mind’s best friend. Because our brain doesn’t think for herself, whatever our mind enjoys, our brain likes as well. So, our brain

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Optics vs Optimism

Chapter 5 –  More than a tool that can be purpose-[re]built, our ego-persona is our raft. She is the only means by which we can inch closer and closer towards our dedicated rainbow and the calmer waters above which it bows in the distance. Serious question: what if all that was required to keep our

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Desire it. Crave it – Get it … Or Not

Chapter 6 –  When we change our perspective, we change our life. That’s because we’ve changed our emotions and our thoughts. That’s because we’ve changed both our actions and our inactions. Setbacks … dreaded setbacks! Dread-full setbacks! Here’s a truth: setbacks only set us back, if we accept to perceive them as unfair complications. Instead,

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Not Going According To Plan? Then What?

Chapter 7    For some, just the mundane fact of being born to their specific parents or in a particular environment proved to be a gruelling challenge. And of course, there are those who, though lacking for nothing of a material nature, have felt the urge to self-destroy and slip down a dark rabbit hole.

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Hollow or Whole, We Were Them

Chapter 8  Ah … mmm … as a new mind-meander is fluttering on the breeze, I sense this one is going to be about another aspect of ourselves that I haven’t yet truly explored. No doubt, that’s about to change. 😊 We’ve known pain. We’ve known bliss. We’ve known trauma. We’ve known happiness. We’ve known

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Foot in water

How Did We End Up in That Mess?

Chapter 9 –  C.S. Lewis said, ‘We are what we believe we are.’ We can go one further and say ‘We are in the mess we believe we’re in.’ So, dear Reader, when we feel pushed to ask ‘How can I reshape the mess I’m in?’ the 4-pronged answer goes along those lines: First stride

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Vessel, What do You Wish To Contain?

Chapter 10  Resilience is defined as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats and significant sources of stress. Adversity is painful. It is challenging, but it doesn’t need to influence our choices on a day-to-day basis. We always have the option to rethink and modify for the greater good

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With The Wisdom Of A Tiny Seed

Chapter 11 Off on to yet another mind-meandering meander, dear Reader. 😊 Very happy to share it with you as I go hoping that you, too, will enjoy meandering with it. Reality check: Though references to anxiety and depression have escalated under the reign of C-19, our forever increasing level of emotional discomfort was already

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Warriors We Are

Courage comes from our willingness to trust and be humble little blind mice in a maze. No idea in which direction lie the coveted morsels of cheese. No idea behind which are hidden the punishing electrical pulses.

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Tough Stuff: thought control

It's Cultural. It's Not us.

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Rethinking Thinking

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